Goal Setting: Congruence & Consequences
Step 2: Find Congruence & Discern Consequences
If congruence doesn’t exist between your goal/s, then no matter how badly you may want to have this goal in your life it will always elude you. Addressing the imbalance in advance, meaning before the goal is set and put in action, will ensure that the goal in question is actually the right fit for you.
There’s a saying that fits this step perfectly: “You can’t fit a round peg into a square hole.”
So what does it mean to find congruence? There are 2 ways. the first is between you and the goal and the second is across goals.
Here are a few questions you can ask yourself to find the congruence both in your life and across goal other goals with the goal you are trying to execute.
- Is this goal aligned with my core values?
- Do I genuinely believe I can achieve this goal?
- Does this goal support my current lifestyle?
- Do any conflict potentially exist here?
- Will I potentially need to adjust my priorities to make room for this goal?
- Is this goal in conflict with other goals I am currently working toward?
- How could these potential conflicts hinder my progress?
- Does this goal support the person I seek to become?
Unless your core values, beliefs, lifestyle, self-ideal, priorities, and other goals are aligned with this goal, then you really have no shot at achieving it. If your current lifestyle and priorities are not aligned with your goal, then you will simply not make the time to pursue it. There will just be too many other things to do, or too many other commitments and responsibilities that will get in your way. If there is no alignment here, then you will simply not make the time or take the necessary action steps to bring this goal to fruition. You either need to align these areas with your goal, or you need to change your goal so that it aligns with these areas.
The same is true if you have other conflicting goals. If different life, career, relationship, and health goals are not aligned with this new goal, then there will be conflicts. Do you see the recurring theme here? When there are conflicting goals at play, you will struggle with prioritization and eventually something will need to go. Simply put, you’ll need to sacrifice something (one of your goals) to achieve another goal.
This part of the goal setting format is all about opportunity cost. Are you willing to give something up in your life to reach a goal? Are you willing to forgo one goal in favor of another? Are you willing to adjust a goal to help or be congruent with other goals? You can focus on one area or on another area or find some congruence! Focusing on both goals or multiple goals without congruence might only lead you astray to the point where nothing can get accomplished to a satisfactory level.
This leads us in to the second half of step 2 which is contemplating the consequences of a creating a goal.
Every goal you set comes with a set of consequences. These consequences can either be positive or negative for both you or other people around you. Consider these questions to help determine consequences that may happen due to your goals:
- Who will potentially be affected by this goal?
- How will these people be affected by this goal?
- What sacrifices may I need to make to pursue this goal?
- In what areas of my life will I need to sacrifice?
- Am I willing to make these sacrifices? Why? Why not?
Typically, when we set goals, we are buzzing with excitement. However, this excitement quickly fizzles out when we realize just how much we need to sacrifice to achieve this goal. A real world example of this would be at the start of the New Year. If you’ve ever walked into a big box gym (LA Fitness, Lifetime, etc.) at the beginning of the year it’s generally packed with people that have created a new goal of losing weight and getting in shape…again. Come February this number has gone down by half or more, and by March it’s back to its normal equilibrium of gym goers. It takes a lot of work to get in shape and stay in shape and these people soon give up on their goal because the effort involved is far more than they expected. They weren’t willing to accept the consequences needed to achieve the goal of losing weight and becoming fit.
I hope you are beginning to realize that there is a lot that goes into creating quantifiable, tangible goals. It’s really not as simple as just saying you’re going to do something, especially if it’s BIG.
Next week we will discuss a measuring unit that we can apply to congruence and consequences so that we know for a fact we are ready to tackle these things!